How can I get fired less?

How can I do better and not be fired as often?

• Don't lie about having a car
• Don't lie about your education
• Stop calling in sick because you are tired
• Stop getting in fights with other employees
• Stop being rude and standoffish to customers
• Stop yelling at colleagues in front of customers
• Improve your work ethic

Basically, start acting like an adult who actually wants a job. That might help.

Rather than changing careers, I recommend you put some time and effort into being truly good at this one. As you are learning rather painfully, becoming a pharmacist is about a lot more than knowing which medications to dispense and how to measure or count them. Dealing with customers and colleagues is a vital part of the job. Your internships were designed to help you get better at this, but there are other ways you can learn these skills.

A pretty straightforward first step is to stop lying. As you've seen, you gain nothing from it. People can and do check what you say, and if you lied, you're out. That's not going to change. Practice telling the truth all the time until it is your natural reflex. And "calling in sick" when in fact you're at another job is a form of lying. Tell the truth all the time.

A harder step is to learn how to be polite to people who are not being polite to you. You might want to contact someone within the university for advice on this. It's genuinely hard. But you're not going to be installing windows or flying an airplane. You're going to be talking to sick people who are scared and in pain and angry that their doctor only prescribed 30 of something and they can't have any more, or that their insurance won't cover the form of the medication they can tolerate, or whatever. These people are going to yell at you. A good pharmacist will help them anyway. And some people won't yell at you, but they need you to be warm and caring, to give them some advice and a friendly smile along with the medication. You may be the only person who they see who knows what they're dealing with. You need to learn this skill.

Once those two are settled, you may find that you have less conflict with colleagues, but if it continues then you can also look for some help with that. I list it last only because the first two skills are just absolute requirements for employment in your field. Because you lack them, people keep firing you. Stop lying, and learn how to stay polite. Then you can stay employed.

Let see what the pattern is.

I worked 1 week cause I lied about having a car and they needed deliveries

You lied, and were fired.

I lied about being in 1st year pharmacy when I wasn't yet and just about to get into university.

You lied, and were fired.

I didn't attend my part time shifts and kept calling in sick because I was working at another pharmacy, and was too tired to go to both.

You lied, and were fired.

I got fired at a hospital on the 1st day because I got in a bit of a fight with the security guard and names were called cause the guard didn't think i was a worker there.

You acted unprofessionally towards a colleague, were rude to them on the first day and were fired.

"you were being rude and standoffish to customers mainly communication; but customers are really rude in retail"

You acted unprofessionally towards customers, were rude to them and were fired

not getting along with coworkers; I felt like a colleague was picking on me and ended up yelling at the colleague in front of the customer

You acted unprofessionally towards a colleague were rude to them and were fired.

So far the pattern you lie and are fired, or you act in an unprofessional manner, and are fired.

I would suggest 2 things to you.

1. Don't lie.

Which I think should be obvious as it has been the #1 reason you have been fired. No one wants to work with someone they cannot trust. Especially when they are dealing with controlled substances whose mishandling could leave them with prison time. They don't want jail time because of your lies. So stop lying.

2. Control yourself.

I know it is hip and popular to "just be yourself", and "not hide your emotions". But following that advice is a good way to have a really, really hard life. Self mastery is one of the most important skills you will ever develop in your life. It is #1 defining difference between people who have a 'easy' life and people that have a 'hard' life. Look up the marshmallow study.

What should you do? Get control of yourself. I might suggest anger management classes. It seems like you have an problem with controlling your temper. I would also practice counting to 10 mentally before you respond to something/say something. In other words think about the consequences of your actions before you make them.

I will not repeat what other friends here wrote. I agree with what they told you. I will just present you pretty much the same information from a different angle.

You want to become a professional. However, professional people are, in the first place, good people (one way or another). So to become a better professional, you must first become a better person.

You are a liar. You are a cheater. You are aggressive verbally. You are aggressive physically. You are rude. These are not features related to being a professional, these are features related to being a good human being. I am sure that you "are fired" as well in your private life. Friends go away from you (if you manage to have them), your family members are not happy to have you around, they do not trust you etc. And that is normal behavior on their part - separating from what brings them unhappiness, anger etc.

So you first need to become a better person. If you cannot do it alone, seek the help of a coach / trainer / psychologist.

On the professional side (greatly useful for the personal life too), see if you can find trainings on conflict management, anger management, conflict avoidance...

And about lying and cheating, there is no training about it. You just have to stop doing it. Take responsibility for your life, and for your decisions. Tell only the truth. Promise only the things that you can do / deliver. Undertake only the "contracts" that you can fulfill. Promises are actually the contracts of private life. When you say "I will buy bread", people will really expect that they will have something to eat. If you force them to remain hungry, they will be terribly unhappy. If you do not have the time for two jobs, then do NOT take two jobs.

Being a good person is important for any aspect of your life. But when your job demands you to work directly with customers, you have to behave a lot more as a "good person" then usual - even when the customers are aggressive. For the situations when the customers are aggressive, you need to talk to your manager about what to do, and follow their instructions. As I wrote above, you may request trainings for anger management, conflict avoidance, conflict management etc.

How can I do better and not be fired as often?

Unless this is a family member posting on your behalf, then you've already taken the most important step. Not many people would readily admit that they lied and were fired multiple times for that reason. Also, not many people would be willing to expose themselves to the kind of negative feedback you're currently getting.

So I would argue that you've already taken the most important step, and that you just need to keep on going with it. Continue to admit your mistakes. Continue to read the feedback you're getting (as painful as it may be to read). Continue to analyze past behavior. Continue to reflect on what you could have done better.

For instance, take the security guard incident. The root cause can't be what you're telling us. Now, I'm not doubting that you didn't have your badge as a new employee. But this kind of incident, not having a badge and being mistaken for a trespasser, happens all the time to all of us at some point in our lives. But for most of us, when that happens to us, we just follow instructions and we wait until the security guard is able to confirm who we are.

After all, the security guard has his own job to do. And if he lets everyone in who seemingly has a good excuse, without double-checking first, then that security guard should lose his job. Furthermore, what do you care if you're delayed a little bit. Even if you're delayed a full hour, it's not your fault you do not have a badge, and waiting around for someone to let you in is in part what you're getting paid for.

you were being rude and standoffish to customers mainly communication; but customers are really rude in retail

It's actually worse than that. As a pharmacist in a hospital, you will have difficult customers. Some may be in the middle of a mental health crisis. Others will be in the middle of a major health emergency. And others still may be dealing with the prospect of losing a loved one.

With that said, dealing with difficult people is a skill. That skill can be learned. I'd suggest you find a senior colleague who is particularly good at that skill, and when they have some down time, ask for their guidance. Usually, most people are flattered at being asked for that kind of help.

And finally, I'd suggest you go to Debtor Anonymous meetings (either online or in person) and eventually work through their twelve step program. Now you don't need to have a debt problem to join Debtor Anonymous, because the kind of problem you're already having is definitely the kind of problem they can help you with. Debtor Anonymous is a very supportive environment, so no one there is going to shame you or berate you for having lied in the past.

For 3 of the 4 times you were fired, you were fired because you knowingly misrepresented yourself and lied. This is dishonest. If you cannot attend many of your part-time shifts due to whatever reason, then please inform them and resign, not kick the can and call in sick.

I got fired at a hospital on the 1st day because I got in a bit of a fight with the security guard and names were called cause the guard didn't think i was a worker there.

For this firing, I need more details to be able to fairly judge your situation. What names were called? Who started what, and what happened? Did you escalate unnecessarily, or did the guard decide to attack you without provocation? Or did you attack him first? If the guard attacked you first, you might be able to claim self-defense legally.

Depending on the circumstances, you might have a case against the Company, but for that seek legal advice. How did they decide you should be fired? In some locations the employer and employee have a mutual obligation to not seriously damage the employment relationship.

As for the internship, you got fired after 5 months:

you were being rude and standoffish to customers mainly communication; but customers are really rude in retail

What incidents were this, and what happened? Who started this? What did you do, with details? What evidence does your manager have against you? Are the complaints substantiated or not? From the meeting, does this appear to be a fact or an opinion?

not getting along with coworkers; I felt like a colleague was picking on me and ended up yelling at the colleague in front of the customer

What happened? What did the colleague do? Why did you yell at the colleague?

Either way please improve your work ethic, not just in the pharmacy job, but also in creating a paper trail with your side of the story and whatever evidence you have.

Some internship schemes allow you to complain to them regarding the processes of the company and whether these comments were true and valid. But it depends.

You feel yourself somehow... incompetent while you are not. You are in a nightmare-is beginning.

I worked 1 week cause I lied about having a car and they needed deliveries

That was a f...ly big mistake, but you could have boosted your lie with this:

"my car is in repair service, I did not know that it will be needed"

Note, you must have some document which describes your work. If it does not contain that you are delivering things with your own car, then most likely they had no legal reason to fire you, and they had no right to issue such a task to you.

Beside that, 1 week work is nothing. You can simply let it out of your CV. It looks much better if it is not in your CV.

I lied about being in 1st year pharmacy when I wasn't yet and just about to get into university.

They should have seen it after the first questions in the job interview. They were very likely totally incompetent. What matters, is the length what you worked there.

I didn't attend my part time shifts and kept calling in sick because I was working at another pharmacy, and was too tired to go to both.

That was a huge mistake. Again, important is the length where you have worked there. If they overlap, it is not surely really bad. You just write that it was an officially agreed temporary "sidework". (Most employer hate if you work also elsewhere, but sometimes they allow it.)

I got fired at a hospital on the 1st day because I got in a bit of a fight with the security guard and names were called cause the guard didn't think i was a worker there.

FCKGW, you never go into battle with a guard!!! Most importantly, you are always polite. On your first workday, you must have some contact person who expects you there.

You go to the guy and explain, this is your first workday, you do not have the card or wtf is needed to enter the building, but you know that you must contact Mr. XY at the department Z at 8:30, now here is 8:20, please let me in or call Mr. XY now.

No one on the world would be fired because an administrative problem on his first workday. But if you go in physical battle with someone, nearly sure that at least one of you won't work there from tomorrow.

Again, as it is a single-day job, you entirely miss it from your CV.

Never lie on job interviews, but you are free to tune the reality as you wish. For example, if you were a pharmacy stundent 1 year long, and they have used you as delivery runner guy of medicaments, then you are free to polish the reality for that you administered medicaments manywhere in the city. Never lie that you developed vaccines, that is the kiss of death.

The beginning of the job market is everywhere terrible. It has two causes:

• Often you are not ready yet with your studies, however neither Universities and neither workplaces want to recognize that also the other exists.
• As you are a beginner, likely there is always a more experienced applicant for a vacancy, so they will be employed and not you. Thus, you can not become a not-beginner...

On the same reason, it is okay if you miss everything (ok, say everything below a month) out of your CV. Then you are a beginner, but not some like a hopeless luser, what you are not.

The only thing what looks really badly and not a simply fixable problem in you, that was the missing of the shifts. If you are not in your workplace, you will be fired, nothing in the Earth can save you. If you can not be in your workplace, in time, you can not work. And you will die like a homeless.

You are free to do anything what is needed. Most people overdoses himself with caffeine. Others, more lucky guy, just don't need it, mostly because their sleep cycle is normal.

If you can not attend your workplace in time, you are dead. Fight!!!